basic sex tips that are seriously underrated

1. Remember your most important sex organ is your brain

"It sounds obvious, but the best sex happens when you have a deep connection with your partner," Annabelle says. "Half of men (48%) and 39% of women reckon that love is the most important factor in achieving sexual happiness, according to research by Lovehoney." Whether you're actually in love the person you're having sex with or it's just a casual fling, a good connection undoubtedly makes sex wayyyy better because you'll be comfortable, relaxed and trusting.

2. Communication is super important

"So, you’ve met that special person and are madly in love, but the sex isn't that great. The only solution to this is to tell them," she explains. "It's vital you keep the channels of communication open to enjoy good sex. Don’t be afraid to say, 'That really doesn’t work for me.' Talk about what really DOES turn you on, and allow them to do the same."

If you do this in a positive way, highlighting what your partner does that you really enjoy, it can be a constructive conversation rather than one in which someone gets hurt.

3. Variety is fun AF

"Eat the same meal every night and you will soon get bored of it. Why would sex be any different?," Annabelle says. "Too many couples get stuck in a sex rut where they do the same things, at the same time with the same results. Sex becomes routine rather than something special to look forward to."

4. Don’t expect it to be amazing every time

"Very few couples have consistently great sex every single time. Most of us experience a mixture of fantastically great sessions, ‘ordinary’ ones and the odd funny incident throughout our sexual relationships," Annabelle explains. "Even couples who rate their sex life as fantastic admit only two to three sessions out of every 10 are sheet-grabbing material, so yes, enjoy the phenomenal sessions, but appreciate the good ones just as much."

5. Make the most of your sex toys

The idea that all women and people with vaginas can orgasm through penetration alone is the biggest and most damaging myth surrounding sex.

6. Kissing is key

"A lot of couples underestimate the importance of kissing, which is a shame because it’s the perfect way to establish intimacy, and is arguably the most important pre-sex act," she says. "Because kissing usually kicks off any sexual activity, knowing how to kiss well can set the tone for the whole evening. Whether it’s lots of tongue, no tongue, nibbling, light pecks or deep, romantic kisses, knowing what your partner enjoys is key to kicking things off right."

7. Wetter is always better

Lube makes sex SO much better. "For as long as humans have been getting down and dirty (or at least documenting it), we have known that we needed lubricant. There seems to be an incorrect assumption that younger women do not need to use lubrication, and if they do, they have a problem," she explains.